Who am I and what am I doing?
I'm a writer, mother, human rights campaigner and doula on a mission to ensure that all women know they matter in pregnancy, birth and parenting.
I need your help to keep doing what I do best: banishing guilt, shame and judgement from pregnancy, birth and parenting preparation and insisting on inclusive, evidence-based and realistic conversations as well as supportive communities around those of us on the wonderful/difficult/bumpy/joy-filled/head scramble of a journey towards parenting.
For £5 a month my Patrons will help me provide online resources for anyone who needs them. As our community grows I'll add more resources, starting with:
1. When I reach 25 Patrons: weekly Instagram tips, videos and live chats, building on the inclusive approach in Your No Guilt Pregnancy Plan.
2. When I reach 50 Patrons: weekly blogs and articles - some information giving, some critical and discursive responding to stories in the news as well as what YOU tell me you want me to write about.
3. When I reach 100 Patrons: free, online, monthly support group for anyone who needs to feel a no judgement team of peers around them at this transformational time in their lives.
The more Patrons support me the more I can do without levying a charge that might make it only for the privileged. In future I'd love to offer in-person groups, regular guest experts and speakers to my online feeds, guest writers, a regular newsletter and more.
Lots of you have asked me for more writing, videos, tips and innovative ideas from me as we work together to make pregnancy, birth and parenting experiences better, more deeply understood and as we examine/challenge/change the many things that contribute to a climate of damage to new parents.
But I’ve realised that I can’t keep doing this on my own. I need my brilliant community of friends, followers, champions, maternal health activists, mothers, fathers and rights-gurus to join me. So I’ve set up a Patreon page - a place where anyone who wants me to provide content, support and new writing on pregnancy, birth, parenting and women’s health can support me as I support others.
As a Patron you’ll help me dedicate more and more of my time to this work by paying me to do it. You’ll make a statement about the value of this work by contributing £5 a month to cover my time, expertise and coffee supply as I produce:
regular pregnancy, birth and parenting tips, resources and discussions accessed via instagram and my website
new writing on women's rights, parenting, pregnancy, birth and reproductive health on my website or other FREE platforms
a monthly (free, inclusive, online) "no guilt, no bullshit, no judgement" support and discussion group for the pregnancy, birth and motherhood/parenthood journey
and more useful stuff as the community grows
As a founder of Birthrights (the human rights in childbirth charity), author of three books, a journalist and a doula with nine years experience I believe we need more than media hysteria, rushed appointments with overstretched healthcare professionals and (if we're lucky) a book or antenatal course to navigate the hail storm of information, emotions and changes to come.
We need real support alongside open and honest conversation that prepares us for the huge shifts in our work lives, friendships, relationships, sex lives, sense of self and bodies. We need a community around us that doesn't judge, shame or scrutinise and offers compassion, a listening ear and a diversity of stories and experiences so that we can find ourselves represented within parenting and know we aren't alone.
I want to provide resources to fill this gap and offer them to everyone who needs them without charging a fee, putting my writing behind a pay wall or creating courses/groups and products that only a privileged few can access or afford.
Many of us don't have spare cash for books or courses at a time when we're making less money and watching it leave our bank accounts at an alarming rate. And whether or not you can afford I know that what's out there often doesn't feel like it represents you, includes you or covers issues like mental health, money, work, sex and intersectional feminism in a way that you need it to.
I'm determined to change that and I need your support to do it.
What's in it for you?
I'm not offering Patrons exclusive content and rewards - this is about inclusivity not exclusivity. Instead your support will help me provide something useful and accessible for anyone who needs it - including yourself.
You will help me demonstrate that we can’t rely on writers, change-makers, social entrepreneurs, activists and mothers to shake things up and break down damaging systems if we aren’t valuing their time or we allow them to burn out as they juggle the work that pays the bills and the work the changes the world.
Your Patron contribution will allow me to dedicate my time and energy to creating this community of people (including you!) ready to learn from each other, trying to banish guilt and sharing the experiences that matter to us. And as a Patron I'll want to hear from you so I can provide what you think will be most helpful to yourself and others.
Why don't I just do this for free?
I want to do everything for free and have a history of charitable work, but I still need to pay my bills and feed my kids. I’m now a full-time freelancer and the struggle is real. I've been forced to shift much of my work and writing on to things that don't benefit the parenting community at large. I'd like to find a way to get back to what I do best without putting myself last or devaluing my expertise and the importance of this work. That means I need to get paid. Revolutionary indeed.
How do I help?
It’s easy! Head over to my Patreon page, set up an account and you’ll be guided through the easy steps to becoming one of my Patrons. I’ll let you know when I reach each level of support and can add a new resource into the mix. And you can contact me to let me know what you’d like more of as I build our community.